Monday, June 15, 2009

Keeping Up With Who You Have Become

In every facet of our lives, we are evolving to a wiser, more skilled and knowledgeable self. Yet, most of us forget to upgrade that whiny 7-year-old insecure voice that resides in our thoughts to the capable, intelligent being we have become. Here's an example: one facet of me is an artist--and that part of me has been around for most of my life. Sometimes I paint and draw more regularly than other times, but every drawing, every design makes me a better artist. Yet, when I took a dozen or so pieces of artwork out from under the bed recently to put on an artists' site to sell, that insecure 7-year-old popped right up with "you think you're a real artist? how long has it been since you've painted? What makes you think you are still an artist? Who'd want to buy prints that are six years old? Why are you spending time on this?"

I see this happen often with my coaching clients. They are justifiably promoted, yet fearful that everyone will learn they are a fraud. Have they met the requirements to get the promotion? Certainly. Do they have the skills necessary to perform the work? Absolutely. The only problem is that they have not stopped along the way to acknowledge to themselves the person they have become after each accomplishment or challenge. Therefore, they feel like a fraud, because their self image does not match who they have become.

How to remedy this dual self? Easy. Take a few minutes each week to journal about what you have learned, accomplished and how you have grown. Week by week, you will keep up with the wise and capable person you are becoming.